Mon, 19 March 2018
All right. Let me tell you I actually answered this exact question to one of my brand new clients earlier today over an audio message, one of my brand new inner circle clients who just joined up about less than two weeks ago or like ten days ago. This exact question I answered to her over a short audio, and then I said to her, "This is a great topic. I'm going to livestream on it," so here we are.
I'll tell you, I'll try to remember, it doesn't matter the wording, but I'll tell you what I told her and then we'll get into a bit more conversation about it. The first thing is you're certainly not alone in that. Lots and lots of people who are people like us, meaning people who get that it is about soul flow, that it is about alignment, that business and life should feel like we're doing what we're meant to be doing. It is a common thing to have this exact struggle of, "Well, on a deeper level, on a soul level, I understand that I should be getting to follow my purpose and do work that lights me up and lifts me up, not just work, but life."
Now, can we just agree for the purposes of, the rest of your entire life, just make me a small commitment, for the rest of your life that you are going to define the word work as any sort of activity or non-activity that's taking place whilst breathing. That could be called work. Laying on the grass here, that could be work. It actually would be a terrible idea, because I happen to know from experience that there's snippity biting ants on this grass, and they're fire ants, and if you lay on the grass here, you're going to be covered in a burning rash of ants, so that really would be some fucking work. I've tested that enough times to have finally learned my lesson, and they get up into your area. They go up your shorts. It's really uncomfortable. It's worse than being tattooed, for sure.
Can we agree that the word work basically means any activity or non-activity whilst breathing, meaning what is even work? Let's not try and differentiate between work means I'm on a computer or work means, is this work? I don't know. This, to me, is much more energising than if I would sit around in my car having a nap. Fire ants are a bitch. There's nothing you can do about it. I wonder, you could put some calamine lotion on it, but I don't tend to travel with calamine lotion on my person when I'm picking up my kid from school, which is why I'm in this park because their school's right there.
When I say work, I mean all things. It could be something that seems obviously like work, like something on your computer relevant to building a business or interacting with a client or doing a Facebook Live. To me, it's absurd that this should be called work to be quite honest. Really, all I ever wanted to do is for the whole world to shut up and listen to me, and nobody can really talk back at me when I'm on a Facebook Live even if they try to. It's up to me whether or not to engage. How does that work, right?
It's purpose work. Purpose work, most of what I do, the very mast majority is what I would call purpose work if I wanted to get into semantics about it, but there may be just certain things from that feels like work in the traditional sense or definition of the word work, like what other people would define it has, but doing the work, my friends and I always say, like when it comes to dating, for example, or finding calling in soulmate love, or calling in the one, that it's like, well, you want somebody who does all the work and that you yourself do all the work, as well, and it's like all the work means that they show up in their business, they show up for their purpose, they show up for their health and fitness, they show up for their values and their relationships that are important to them, they show up for the inner work, they show up sexually, they show up in all the ways.
That's what work means to me. It's the work of living your life, and I think the word work is not supposed to be a dirty word. There's that firstly, but then where the confusion gets into it is, well, when you're this sort of person, person like me, person like my clients who understands that work is meant to be play, purpose, fun, joy, living, breathing. That's what work is. And then at the same time, you feel like, "But there's stuff that I gotta do that doesn't really feel like flow" or "I don't feel excited about it. How do I reconcile that?" I get asked this question a lot, like I said, which is, "Well, how can I do what I want all day, Kat, like you talk about and believe that I can just follow my soul's desires" which I teach a lot on "and follow flow and then get the result I want. I wanna believe that. I do believe it on a deeper level."
Hey, hey, if you're just jumping on. Hi, Amber. "I wanna believe it on a deeper level," and they do believe it on a deeper level, and I know that you do, as well, right, to be here resonant with this topic, but at the same time, it's like, "I don't feel," and this is what I hear, you might resonate with this. They say. "I don't feel that I can afford to do that yet" or "I don't feel that I'm able to do that yet. I don't feel that I can do that yet because I need cash or because things are just not working out or I'm just getting started," or whatever it might be.
Are you working today? Am I living today? Then I'm working today, and, no, that does not mean I sit at my computer all day long or do other forms of conventionally defined work. The work is living my life.
Here's what I told my client. Firstly, I absolutely fully believe that the way to success is to follow flow, to be guided from within. Every single thing that I choose to do in my business or in my life, and once again, do we have to separate those things out? Yes, let's do it for the purposes of discussion. Everything that I choose to do in any element of my life, business, pleasure, pleasure, it's all mixed together. At this point in my life, comes from flow. I only follow soul alignment. I follow what I'm guided to do within.
I'm going to read this comment later, Angela, but I can't believe you just sat there and came up with 20 items when you should have been freaking listening, or you just had them handy, or did you get them off the Internet?
Anyway, I'm really and truly guided. At this point, I feel like life is just so easy and continues to get easier, and I don't mean I don't experience struggle or purposeful pain or push or uncertainty or even feeling freaking frustrated or pissed off or whatever. All of it still comes back to ease though because 100% of my choices are made from what is right for my soul, what does my soul desire to do right now. When I say, "Yes," to my soul, life says, "Yes," to me. Right, and this is just a rule that I live by.
How this works in a practical sense is that I literally create my day moment by moment based on what I feel aligned to do, what I feel like, what I want to do. I 100% follow what I want to do, so much so that, and I don't tend to have many things that are booked in at an appointment in my calendar each week. It's a very minimal amount. It's an amount that adds up in hours to about six hours a week, give or take, and that's based on the fact that I muscle tested myself on how many hours a week I actually want to be in booked appointments, whether it's client calls or booked livestreams, so I chose it specifically for me based on what my body and higher self directed me to do, but, even then, the appointments, if they're booked, if I feel like that's not aligned, that's not what I'm meant to be doing, if I feel like I'm supposed to be having a massage instead or a nap or playing with my children or whatever other thing, finishing a piece of writing, then I will 100% change the time of a booked appointment, and my clients know this. It's not something that happens all the time, but it happens enough that people are like, "Yeah, she might message me and be like, 'Can we shift to this time or this time or whatever,'" and they can do the same.
As a coach, I'm never like, "Oh, well, you lost your appointment." I used to do that, but I don't ... Well, if someone was like taking a piss, then I would, for sure, but if somebody's like, "Oh, you know, it doesn't feel like aligned for me to talk right now. Can we move to another day," I'm like, "Yeah, whatever." I only work with so many clients, so this makes all this stuff easy, as well.
I feel like that's the end goal. I feel like the ultimate is that you just get to make it up as you go along. You get to follow flow. You get to only do what you feel like you desire to do. What do I want to do in this moment? Like I tuned in. Am I supposed to have a nap? Am I supposed to do this livestream? I'm like, "Yeah, I'm gonna do a livestream." Everything is moment by moment, but there was a time in my business and in my life where I was over $100,000 in debt, actually over 145 according to the journalist who did an interview on me for [inaudible 00:14:36] recently, and he's right because I gave him the numbers, actually worked it out. I was like, "Oh, you're right. It is more than 100," because he wanted to write ... He wrote in the draught 200K+ in debt, and I'm like, "No, no. It was 100," and then I worked it out, and I'm like, "Oh, it's 145. There you go. There's a more impressive debt number for you," but it was accurate.
I felt like a lot of people who speak to me feel like, and new clients, when they come on board often feel this way, I felt that I was struggling ... Well, I was struggling to keep my head above water, and I felt like I had to live in constant reactivity, and if I didn't keep running at a million miles an hour, I was not going to make it through another day or another week financially, continually felt like, "Well, I know what my purpose is and I know what I'm meant to be doing, and I know what freaking flow would feel like right now, and it certainly wouldn't be staying up till 3:00 AM. I wanna freaking sleep, or I wanna get my hair done everyday or I wanna have a massage every day, but I don't have the money for that and I can't afford that time, and I've got to do these things." Logically, that makes sense, but whoever said that they wanted to live in a logical world, and what is logic anyway? What if logic came from intuition? Huh? All right?.
Here's what happened. As long as I stayed in that reactive cycle, basically like a hamster on a wheel, continually buying into the story that I had to live this way in order to survive, I continued to only just survive and only just keep my head above water. I'm talking about so many people, but I'm so glad this resonates, Diana, and if it does resonate, say, "That's me and I'm gonna change it," or say whatever the fuck you want, but I wasn't going to say, "Say, 'That's me,'" without adding something else to it. Make a affirmation claim for yourself in the comments or just send the love hot shower. I feel particularly energised now. So much for having a nap in the car, right? "This resonates, and I change it as of today." You could say something like that.
It was just a trap. It was a story. It's a story. When you tell yourself, "I have to do this and this or else," any form of wording like that, expressed verbally or not, is a story. It's a motherfucking story. All right? The way out of it, however, is not necessarily that you're like, "Right. Well, Kat said I can do what I want every day and, frankly, what I want to do after all these years of working my ass off and burning myself out is lay on the couch and eat freaking Doritos for about four weeks." You know what? You could totally lay on the couch and eat Doritos for four weeks, and your life would not, in fact, be ruined. When you fast forward 10 or 20 or 30 years from now and you look back to the life you created, do you think your success will be defined or not defined by the fact that in March of 2018, you took three days off without doing anything or you took four weeks off and ate Doritos? Is that going to be the defining factor?
"Change the motherfucking story." A powerful comment there from Julie. I even told a client flat out two days ago, I was like, "Right. Your homework, your mission is you're going to do nothing till at least Saturday." Pause, pause, press pause. It's not always press play. In fact, when I invented Press Play, downloaded it, I initially was going to have these things, like Press Pause, Press Start, Press Rewind, and then it got too confusing and I just stuck with Press Play, but you see what I'm saying, right? However, I'm not even telling you to do that unless you totally feel so next level frazzled that you can't even tell which way's up and which way's down, which you probably should freaking lay on the couch and eat whatever you want to eat, until you're ready, until you're recharged and ready to go and get out of the fear mentality that if you stop, the whole Earth falls apart and the sky falls in. You'll be trapped in a fear mentality for as long as you continue to allow it to rule you.
Typically, though, I say something like this. "Well, here's what I did in the end, and here's even, to a degree, still how I look at it." There are certain tasks to this day which, when I see them in my mind's eye that, okay, this thing needs to get done today, I feel like I don't really want to do that. That feels like work, traditional sense. I don't want it. To me, this is like, and this is what I said to my client, "It's like a child." A toddler says, "I don't want to eat my vegetables. I don't want to eat that." Well, on the surface, you don't want to, but is it true that your human soul that your amazing ...
Greensleeves is playing. The ice cream van is here. It's bringing up childhood flashbacks. I don't even like ice cream, and then whenever the ice cream man comes, I just want to get a freaking soft serve cone. It's like I'm having a Pavlovian response right now. I'm very much on the edge of getting up and sprinting over there to get a cone with a freaking flake in it and some chocolate on top. I'm magnetically attracted to this van. I actually don't like ice cream, but I'm like, hmm, it's a pink van, as well. It's very disconcerting. Luckily, my children aren't here or we would be over there.
All right. The child who doesn't want to eat their healthy fruits. Well, actually, on a soul level, you do desire to be healthy, and, actually, on a soul level, your body desires healthy fruit. This is how I choose to look at it with tasks that I still to this day choose that I'm going to do that are going to move me forward in certain areas of my business, or it might even be something like reviewing the photos in my Hollywood branding shoot. I don't really want to. It's like I can't be bothered, but it's a task. I look at it as a task. Then I ask myself, "Do I want that result, though?" So instead of reacting to the surface emotion of whether or not I feel like doing something right now in this moment, I look at, do I desire the result? And I choose it that way.
Many of the things that you think, "Fuck, Kat, I need to do this. I need to get out there and hustle. I need to wave my soapbox flag and get people's attention and sell them shit. I got to build a freaking landing page. I really don't wanna do that," or a sales page or whatever it is. I did all these things. Of course, I did all these things. Well, we do need to let go of the scarcity energy. That shit's not going to sell no matter how much flag waving you do. In fact, quite the opposite, right? But at the same time, maybe there is shit that you got to kind of suck it up, but what if you didn't look at it as sucking it up? What if you looked at it, what if you stepped away from your own emotion of the moment and said, "what is true flow?" Flow doesn't mean eating the freaking ice cream instead of the vegetables, but maybe it does. It depends on the occasion, right? The other night I had caramel slices for dinner, several.
Flow means, what is the aligned decision? So when I see a bunch of stuff where I'm like, I don't really want to do that, and it's stuff that I've chosen or decided that I'm not gonna outsource to somebody else in my amazing support team that I do have now, I'll go, "well, what is aligned? Is it aligned for me to do that?" Well, I don't feel like it. That's not the same as "is it aligned?" But then here's what else. So that might help you to start thinking about it, thinking about acting from the result, acting from what actually would the higher self version of you have to say about the situation, eat your damn vegetables, or whatever it is. Here's what else though. You separate it out, which is still how I do it.
I would never, never, never ... Can somebody screenshot this? Alright, send it to me. Who screenshotted it? Tell me, and message it to me. I will love you forever, probably with my whole heart as my son says, which he alternates with "I hate you mommy and I'm never talking to you again." Sometimes 'cause I ask him to like put his shoes on in an airport or something like that. Oh, thank you. Everybody, you all have a different version, and then we can create it into one of those flicker books where it's just like you flick through. Awesome. Send them all through. I was getting like 20 of them.
So you separate it out. You never, ever, ever do the tasky things that feel more like work in the morning, are you insane? You do your flow-based things in the morning. You broccoli up like a motherfucker at any time that's required, exactly, Leo. Leo? Leah. I've just given you your male angel name. It's Leo. You don't do that shit first. Put first things first. Honour your values. Honour what does your soul truly, reactively desire? Journaling, working out, writing creating art? Okay, maybe your soul is a bit of a lazy motherfucker right now and needs its ass kicked and feels like it doesn't decide to do any freaking thing except lay in bed all day. Oh my God! That's crazy. Your dad, wow. That's [inaudible 00:23:01]. Maybe your soul feels like it wants to do fuck all. Well in that case, your soul is much like an unhealthy person who's eaten nothing but McDonald's for 20 years and just needs to be educated back into what it actually desires from a soul level, right? So there's many things to consider here.
But the point I'm trying to get to is this. Allow so much space for flow. So much space for moment by moment, I can decide what do I feel like right now? You know what Mim, drop that comment about impress. You're obviously gonna have to read this comment, Mim's gonna pin it here, and you're gonna message me if you want to work with me four weeks one on one starting on Monday. I believe we have about eight places left. It's fucking amazing. Just read the comment. I don't have time to talk about it 'cause the school bell just rang right then. I heard it. This always happens when I livestream before the school bell. Okay. Message me on my personal page, please, not on the business one. That would be amazing.
And you separate it out. So you allow plenty and plenty and plenty of time for flow, right? All the time for flow. But you trunk down. So you might decide that I'm gonna do one hour a day or two hours a day where I put the freaking timer on, I caffeine up, I broccoli up like a motherfucker, or whatever it is that excites you, and you put your tunes on and you work through your shit. And I did an hour like that earlier today and I spent minimum 25 minutes of it staring at the wall, because I was hoping that an angel would come down and do it for me and I was trying to come up with a lot of reasons as to why I didn't have to do what I knew I actually, on a higher higher soul level, wanted to do. And eventually, I did the fucking thing, because I'm result-based and I'm committed and I do the work, all the work, and I recognise that whether or not I feel like it is not reflective of my soul desires.
But that is like a one hour a day thing I'll do. In the past, it was a lot more than that because I felt like there was a lot of ground to cover, right? And gradually, I just turned up the dial to where now, I might do 30 minutes a day like that where I'll be like, right, let me work through these kind of tasky tasks, or it could be an hour a day, or sometimes it's ... A lot of the time, it's actually zero times a day, zero hours a day. But then I might do a half day like that, or something like that, right? So for you, now, we're gonna walk and talk. We're gonna walk and talk. Walk and talk. For you now, it could be that you designate like every Monday. Monday is broccoli up like a motherfucker day, which is gonna be our new in-house expression which means do the fucking work, the work you think you don't wanna do. When you're like, "but Kat says I can do whatever I want all day and what I want to do is float like a fairy in the breeze!" Well you can do that after you broccoli up like a motherfucker. Right? And then you connect, though, the tasky tasks.
Anyone came in who didn't like know me or know our languaging, I guess I sound like I'm off my head. You connect the tasky tasks emotionally. Look, there's the ice cream van. Do you see it? Just staring at me. There it is. There's a small dog in the window which I swear that's put there to attract you in even more compellingly.
You emotionally connect the tasky tasks to a feeling of being proud of yourself, and to a feeling of, "I am actually honouring my soul desires. I am doing the work. I am doing what is required to get to my goals and to create the life I want." Alright, now what we're gonna do is simple. We're gonna abandon the tripod and we're gonna continue to walk and talk while we go to school. Alright.
So that's really all I had to say about it, I think. But the point is, get over yourself. However, that doesn't mean live reactively, and no, it certainly doesn't mean that just because cash is required that you've got to spend all your day doing shit that feels like a grind. Actually, you're gonna be very ineffective if you do that, and you're not acting from higher self to not honour your soul desires, alright? So it's about gradually making moves in the direction that you want to go. It's about daily asking yourself, how can I connect more into flow and more into, quote unquote, "only doing what I want?" In the smallest possible way today, for this moment in time, right? What is the one shift or change that I can make today?
Like maybe you're really tired in the middle of the afternoon, and you've got to go pick up your kids, and you're telling yourself, "I don't have time to stop. I don't have time to pause or to have a rest." And you actually legitimately need it. So maybe for today, the faith-based action is you take a rest, right? Or maybe the faith-based action is, when you're feeling frazzled or overwhelmed, you walk away instead of trying to do more, and you go, "you know what, a smart person would go and lay down or go for a walk or have a massage or spend some time out on a livestream of Kat's" and connect back to their soul, whatever it might be.
Alright. I think that's all. I'm gonna go. I'm gonna go, 'cause I'm not gonna livestream through the schoolyard. I don't think that's okay. Message me about empress. Read the comment. Please read that comment. It's an incredibly powerful programme. Download it from [inaudible 00:27:54], and it's around claiming your rightful place now, creating your empire, becoming an empress. Business, life, soul, all of it. Message me on my personal page if you want more details about that. It is private coaching. There is a lot more that I have to say about it, and so I can send you an overview. Have an amazing rest of the day, and do not forget: life is now. Press play.
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