Wed, 28 March 2018
When you believe that the vision inside of you is true and you just have that faith, and don't forget that faith is a choice, when you believe and you have that faith, guess what?
You can do, and you should do, and you must do whatever the fuck you want, which is fabulous, and I don't even mean it in the sense of being a rebel or a black sheep. Like, I just think like, I'm like a black sheep or a rebel, but that's just because I was following my soul. I never set out to be a black sheep or a rebel, right? That was just me doing what I knew I needed to do for me, and then we end up labelled that way. And then, you know, I kind of use the labelling 'cause it's like cool or whatever. I think it's fun, but it's like, eh, my intention was never that. My intention was never to be a black sheep. It just kind of happened because it's how I am.
Well, doing whatever you want just means you can't screw it up, you can't go wrong, it's literally impossible for you to screw it up. You know that that vision inside of you is real. You know that it's going to come to life.
So what have you gotta do to bring it to life?
Keep focusing on it, keep setting that intention, keep tuning into it through your inner work, through your journaling, and then your task, as far as what action to take through your day, through your business, through your life, is to tune the fuck in and listen to what your soul is telling you.
And this is the biggest thing that I come back to repetitively; it's the number one piece of advice or conversation that I come back to repetitively with my private clients, my home clients, who pay me a significant amount of money obviously to work with me. This is the biggest thing I teach them, and we come back to it over and over again.
Actually, I wrote about it in another blog, which I've not published yet, which I'll put up later today, which I wrote this morning, and it just makes it so easy, right, because I know that I'm gonna succeed.
I know that my entire vision is coming to life. It's always been that way and I know that it's the same for you. So all I need to do is to tune in and to follow soul for it.
There's literally nothing else required, and isn't that just the most beautiful, glorious thing in the world, because it means that when you are somewhere and you suddenly feel like you need to not be there, you're not gonna screw it up by leaving.
Wed, 28 March 2018
So yesterday I found out that in certain groups on the internet, on Facebook groups that people talk all the time about what a bitch I am and how they can't handle my live streams, and I'm just like okay, I'm just gonna say something directly to those people right now.
Just so you know, if you say that you can't even, even with me, and you can't handle my live streams, and did you see what she did on her latest live stream, I'm just gonna point out the obvious which is that the only way you know that is 'cause you're watching the fucking live stream.
So technically that makes you a magnetised as fuck fan who's triggered as fuck by the way. And if you are triggered and emotionally charged by me that's because I'm being a mirror and because I'm confronting anew something that you know you get to address inside of you and basically probably you're gonna become a client in about a year and then you're gonna tell me that you used to hate me and bitch about me behind the scenes, but I already knew 'cause other people told me.
If you didn't actually care, if you weren't like connected to me on a soul level in some sort of a way then you wouldn't watch the live streams and you wouldn't bitch about me behind the scenes and you wouldn't care, you'd be like I'm not interested, I'm not attracted to her, I'm not magnetised by her, and you would just not even observe or know, or like you literally wouldn't care, right? It happens all the time Alyssa. I actually was a little shocked because I'm so in a love bubble of my own cult and my own world that I've created that I haven't heard it for a while, but I used to be much more conscious of it, and to answer the person's question who asked about this, I knew about it more and I was conscious of it because I was concerned about it and because it would cause me to shrink and be worried and like not speak my truth. And then I just gradually over time let go of that because I still care, like yesterday I was like, I was triggered and I was a little hurt, I was like oh, I was actually like oh, I thought everybody loved me now. I really did, I was like oh. Well, okay. And then I was like oh well technically I suppose I can believe, like I do actually know that people don't like me, but I kind of forgot because I'm only surrounded by love.
So I was a little triggered, and I was like kind of like I think I wanna go right into their houses and like cook them dinner and just sit them down and just explain to them like just so you understand I'm a nice person, and I'm actually like really, so I'm like really introverted and quiet in real life and everything as well. I think you would like me, right? Like really, I'm an actual, like I'm, like I'm, like I'll buy you a present, I'll bring you chocolate, I'll do that, I do that all the time anyway.
So I kind of felt like I need to, I need to deal with this situation so that people understand how awesome I actually am, but then the other part of me was like not fuck them, I like, I got into curiosity and I like I think it's funny because the reason I said, I'm like well if you're watching my live streams then it means you're a fan, like just technically, like just saying, so I think it's funny.
But also even if I feel hurt or even if I've lost people along the way and I've lost friends and I've lost some clients along the way who I got too much for them, I got too intense for them, and some of them came back and then they were like you got too much for me, you got too intense for me, I couldn't handle it, it was like a trigger for me.
Like one of my newest clients who joined my inner circle, like first thing he did introducing himself is oh probably like a lot of people here when I first come across the truth is I wanted to punch her through the computer screen. I was like aw, people say the sweetest things about me. And for real though, my clients say that all the time, right, so it's really, really common and normal. Oh thank you, thank you for the present, in a box.
So anyway, my point is I got to a point of understanding that my message and my art and speaking my truth is more important and bigger than what people wanna say about me, right? And that I have to put that first.
Wed, 28 March 2018
What if you chose to feel always that you're exactly where you need to be, that you always make the right decision, that everything always works out perfectly for you, that you're moving forward on your correct path with beautiful perfect alignment right now, that you were born to win, and that nothing can stop you.
So, therefore, you get to do what you want.
Wed, 28 March 2018
The point is back yourself.
When are you gonna finally back yourself, okay?
So I was using an example with my client. I was like, listen to me, you already know, this is what I wanna say to you now, you already know that everything you feel inside of you is right. You already know that the way that you're being directed to do it through your soul is the way that it's gonna work. You already know that if you were to go against your own soul and your own nature, and you were to essentially go and try and do...
In a way that, (okay I think it just kept freezing,) in a way that feels kind of icky to you, or it's just boring, it's not interesting, it's not expansive, it feels like, really? Do I really have to do that? Ah, okay, I guess I'd better. That's what's gonna get me a result, okay.
And it's kind of like this head hanging type of feeling, right? If you were to do it in that way, you know that it's not only not gonna work, you know this at your core, right?
You might be buying into a story, you might be telling yourself all manner of things that are definitely not true, you might be trying to justify and convince, you might be like, well that person knows better than me, or they're further along than me, and maybe I don't really know because I haven't achieved that goal yet, I haven't made it, whatever your goal is in your business. And so they probably do know better, and I probably should do it this way, and you're going down this pathway of essentially trying to convince yourself to not back yourself. Which when you put it that way sounds really kind of crazy and not good crazy. And it's so sad, I think, as well, right?
And then the other side of the coin, the flip side of that is you 100% know, give me love heart shower, give me love to chat about this, you 100% know, if you agree with me, give me a love heart shower, you 100% know that what's inside of you is real. You know that the things you feel inside of you about where your success is gonna come from is correct, and one thing that I love to journal on again and again, and you might like to save this as an idea for later, and write it down as a journaling prompt, or somebody can put it in the comments if you want cause I'm having a hard time getting my laptop to work here, I like to journal often on, like a question that I've asked myself many times over the years, where do I really believe, for example, my $100 million empire's gonna come from? Or before I was already making multi millions a year, then I would journal on where do I really believe my multi million dollar business is gonna come from? Or where do I really believe my fame, or my impact, or whatever it is, is gonna come from?
Tue, 20 March 2018
I'm going live ... Oh, I'm live. I think I'm live. Here I am. Here I am, world. Look at this ugly fucking wall behind me. I think I could have a beautiful background. Wouldn't you?
Oh, hi. Hi person. Hello person number one whose jumped on my live stream. What's happening? What is up? Beth, welcome. Welcome to the live stream in the hotel from hell.
Alright. I've so many things that I could say. Joseph's announced himself by saying Joseph. Hi Joseph. Hey Leah. Background that I ... I hate this background, it's so ugly. It's the ugliest wall I've ever seen in my life.
Poor Kelly, he's sitting over there, his head tilted... Okay, Joseph just gave his phone number. Can you send a photo of yourself before you give your phone number? And resume.
Matt, thank you for asking if I'm well. I am actually well at the core, but I'm in an absolutely foul and shitty mood. I'm happy about my new yellow top, though. Although, I'm not sure that it's too much yellow potentially. What do you think? How much yellow do you think is too much yellow?
But, I'm in like the most grumpy bitch-ass mood in the world. My poor best friend, Kelly, who's sitting right over there, hidden behind the camera, well to the side of it, basically has had to listen to me storm back into the room like an angry bear with a sore head, and just bitch about every possible thing.
And it's all valid, though. As she just said herself, they call themselves the five star hotel, but they take care of none of the small details. And what I notice is, I'm used to being treated and taken care of in a very particular way. Which is to say, VI fucking P way, and everything should always be flow and smooth.
Who said I always look awesome? Thank you. Looks like lime yellow. I don't mind a bit of lime yellow.
Give me a second, and I'm gonna share this live stream over to my personal page, and that sort of thing.
It's not even the little things. It's every fucking thing. Their heads are up their asses here. Shangri-La, Santa Monica. Do not stay here. And to make matters worse, I stayed here last month, and the same thing happened, and yet here I am again. Because I'd already pre-paid for this stay. And that was my mistake. Is my mistake is thinking that that meant anything instead of just cancelling it regardless, which is what I should have done.
Thank you for all the comments. Shangri-La, Santa Monica. They have not got a single piece of their shit together. They probably need help taking an actual shit, that's how much shit they don't have together. But, the location is freakin' phenomenal, like you're just right here near the 3rd Street Promenade and the ... Like I'm looking at the ocean right now. The views are phenomenal as well.
I don't believe they do know who I am, and I did even say to Kelly yesterday, I was like, "I know this is really wanky, but I'm really at the point where I'm very tempted to say, 'Do you realise I have over 100,000 social media follows?'" Or something like that. Because I feel like if you knew that, then maybe some treatment would be different here.
But then I also feel like the problem is that they just literally actually don't have a clue, and they don't get it. Which is just one of those situations in life, where when you notice that somebody doesn't have a clue and they don't get it, like it could be somebody in your personal life, it could be a client, it could be a friend that's somehow transporting themselves along from previous phases of friendships, and they're not really keeping up with the next level new you, and nor should they have to, by the way, keep up with anything. But you've noticed that somebody or something in your life doesn't get it, because if you were being bitchy 'cause it's totally 'cause they're freakin' moronic. Or, they just have a different alignment, or a different value system.
It's not about LA. I come to LA every month or two. Never in my life have I experienced such appalling overall, wonky standards. I'm not going to say like, bad service, because they certainly seem to want to be helpful. I just think they don't know what helpful means, or they're just ... Okay, they're at the door now. Maybe they heard me, maybe they're on the live stream.
Anyway, when you notice that somebody didn't get it-
It's okay, it's coffee. Which is another thing entirely, by the way. The reason that the coffee had to be called to the room, because we were told we would get a coffee maker in the room. And then we never did.
Suck. You know, I'm like happy with anything. I just needed to get things off my chest.
Anyway, you just eliminate them. That was the point that I was trying to make. That when you notice that somebody in your life doesn't get that you don't-
... have to kill them, that's the one I meant by eliminate. That's definitely not what I meant.
You eliminate yourself out of their area, and out of their space. And you go and create your own new environment-
... and space.
Where it's meant to be.
Having a small moment of panic about the coffee. But actually, the reason that I got on this live stream was not even to talk about that. I just needed to get it off my chest. Oh, if I told you all the things, you would honestly start sending me gifts straight away. The only thing is you wouldn't be able to send them here, because they don't accept packages for customers here, which is another thing.
So, anyhow, the reason that I've gone on this live stream is because I had as often happens, a tonne of audio messages from clients, which all related to a certain thing. And then I noticed that I was saying the same thing over and over again, so I was like, clearly I need to tell the whole world then.
Do you love how over it I am that I just keep on bitching about the hotel while the guy's in the room?
Thank you. Do you want to say hi to the people or not really?
With my venom eyes?
She's got venom under her eyes. Snake venom. Look at them. They look fabulous.
But they look fabulous enough.
She's a real person, I wasn't pretending that there's another person in the room. Sometimes I pretend. You never know.
Ah, yeah, then my suitcase went missing. It was a whole ordeal. Honestly, I could talk for fifty minutes for all the things that went wrong at this hotel last month and this month. Oh, and then to make it even funnier, they apologised and said they'll send me a free bottle of wine, a bottle of house wine, right? But I accepted graciously, because I am a very gracious person, as you can see. And then like, the next ... Later that night, or whatever, I went downstairs, and the guys like, "Oh, I'm sorry again" and, "Did you enjoy your wine?" And I'm like, "It never came." Of course, at that point I was just like, I've embraced that it is what it is.
But I've only got myself to blame, because I'm back here again. Like never again. Never again! You heard it here. Don't tag them in, because maybe they'll kick us out now, and we do have one night left, and we're just gonna sleep here tonight. Otherwise, we're gonna go crash with Chris Duffey in Venice Beach.
Okay. Alignment. Here's what I said to a client today, and it came up with several clients. I said... She said to me, "I'm trying to figure out why I'm consistently not achieving this one particular goal," that she has in her business, right? And I said, and this is what I wanted to share with you, I said, "Well, if you're consistently not achieving something and yet there's this other area, this other big area that in this particular case I'm aware of for her and she's aware of them and we're both aware of, this other area that is relevant to your alignment and what you know what you're meant to be doing, and yet you're not taking care of it, you're not honouring it, you're essentially not pressing play in that area.
Regardless of what your reasons are no matter how valid or not valid they are, then you're blocking your ability to receive to moving to flow to manifest all things. So, not pressing play in one area is equivalent to not pressing play in all areas. Being out of integrity or out of alignment in one area is the same as being out of integrity and out of alignment in other, even all areas.
And so if you're noticing that you're feeling frustration like maybe your income's not going how you want it to go right now, or you're not signing up clients for these, or you're finding it difficult to receive [inaudible 00:08:11] maybe, or your list isn't growing, or maybe everything just feels kind of like hard going with money, with business, or maybe you feel like no matter what I do, my body doesn't change, or life doesn't feel fun or flow or whatever it is, right? If you feel that if a girl or a dream or something that you're meant to achieve ...
Welcome to your first live. Hi there, you've missed the fun part already, but you can watch the replay.
If you feel that a girl or a dream or something that you're wanting to achieve is just not coming to fruition and you really feel like, buy why, because I've been focusing on this for ages and I've been trying to achieve this for ages, and I've even been doing the work. The first thing, well one of the first things I would then look at, or at least what we're talking about today is, alright, cool, where ... you know, totally, supposedly, unrelated area of your life, are you not owning your shit? Or are you not following your own values? Or your own alignment? Or are you just not doing the fucking work or not pressing play, right?
So for example, I knew that for as long as I continued to stay in my marriage, which as most people that know me know that I left sometime quite a while back now, several years nearly. But I was remaining in that marriage for quite a few years when I knew that we had to do something about it, right? I was conscious because I did know the stuff already. I knew that I'm definitely limiting creative flow and abundance in my business and in my life because I'm not in integrity and I'm not in alignment in this relationship. I'm not supposed to still be in this relationship. And I knew that, right? But, I was like, not ready, or whatever. I didn't choose to be ready. So I was conscious and I still didn't choose. And I think sometimes that's just is what it is, right? You can be like, "Yeah, I'm aware of what I'm doing."
And then eventually of course, I got to a point where I felt emotionally able and ready to choose it and I made my decision, but maybe you don't even know this stuff, right? Maybe you don't even realise the powerful carry-on effect that occurs when you're not doing what you're supposed to be doing what's right for your soul and your values and your life, and you're thinking, well, it just makes no sense that my income's not growing or my business is not flowing, or whatever along those lines, because I am doing all the work.
The simple solution is just, and I do this exercise pretty frequently actually, maybe every month or so whenever I think of it, to sit down and write out the word integrity at the top of the page and just write where am I not in integrity. And it can be the smallest little things. It could even be something so simple, and I've had this conversation with so many clients. This is really random.
I'm going to give you a tiny example. Not washing your make up off your face before you go to bed at night. Like if that is something important to you, if it's not, it doesn't matter. But if you think that that's important, which I personally do, and then you don't do it because you're essentially, I don't know, in some sort of bizarre resistance about cleaning your own face, which for whatever reason is exceptionally common with women, I know that, then you're not in alignment. You're not in integrity. You're not honouring your own values in this case. So, that's something that I have done a lot, right? I'm like fucking going to bed with my face dirty and I don't care. Nobody can stop me.
And it's these bizarre form of resistance that even the smallest things that are resistance against your own value system, are going to impact your ability to receive in all areas. And here's the reason why. And this will make total sense for you. I'm going to pause for effect.
The reason is, it's a flow thing, right? In order to receive money with these, results with these, results in business, in money, in your body, in relationships, in all areas of life, we simply need flow. Flow is the pathway that allows you to receive. Now flow can sometimes feel bumpier. It can feel like turmoil or there can be purposeful pain as part of flow as well, by the way, but flow is still essentially a forward flow based emotion.
So anything that's not in alignment or where you're not in integrity or you're not attending to something, you can look at it like it's essentially a road block to flow. It's like, okay, flow is me, going this way, doing its thing with these, and it just kind of happens because this is who I am and this is how I shop, and I travel down the path this way, and now I'm just allowing all these hurdles and road blocks and bumps in the road to either take me off path or stop me or distract me or I bump over them and I fall over and I hurt myself. And either way, I've switched out of flow.
So if you want to switch back into flow, and you want to really know that you're showing up to get the results you want in a particular area of your life, then my advice to you today is to just take kind of like a broad step back. Take like a broad, big scope overview of what's going on in your life and just be honest with yourself. Where am I not in integrity? Where am I not in alignment? Where am I not honouring my own values? Where am I not taking care of myself?
So you can look at where I'm not in integrity or where I'm not in alignment, but you could also look at ... you could flip it the other way and simply look at what are all the things that I would be doing if I was truly honouring myself. And I don't just mean like, fucking show up and hustle. That's not what I mean. I mean, everything can be [inaudible 00:13:11], can be thought of an adventure, can be all those things. Literally just had a baby about this. Still going to be what's in alignment and what's not in alignment. Alignment doesn't mean doing more like quote on quote work, the work is all the work. Anyway, the work is the work.
I'm leaving. I'm going to go. Just like that. I'm in total flow and I could totally happily preach for another hour, but I have a client call right now with one of my amazing inner circle clients, so I'm going to leave you with that short message and I nearly thought I will wait until later to talk about it, but I thought you know what, because I only have like 30 minutes, but it was coming through right then, so I hit you with it, watch the replay, enjoy my little rant at the start.
And I also want to quickly mention to you that Empress begins today. It is literally beginning right now today. Empress is my four week one-on-one. There are a few places still left. I'm still communicating with a few people over message. You can still sign up. You would definitely want to message me quickly now over on my personal Katrina Ruth profile. It's four weeks one-on-one with me. Empress. Claim your rightful place now. I don't have any more details that I can give you right now 'cause I got to jump off, but if you're curious and you've been feeling like it's time to step up and or you know that I'm the mentor for you and you're ready to go all in, or you think you might be, then just PM me and I will get you all of the details of all that and obviously investment and that sort of thing as well.
Have an amazing rest of the day. Thank you for coming along real quick and don't forget, life is now, press play.
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Mon, 19 March 2018
All right. Let me tell you I actually answered this exact question to one of my brand new clients earlier today over an audio message, one of my brand new inner circle clients who just joined up about less than two weeks ago or like ten days ago. This exact question I answered to her over a short audio, and then I said to her, "This is a great topic. I'm going to livestream on it," so here we are.
I'll tell you, I'll try to remember, it doesn't matter the wording, but I'll tell you what I told her and then we'll get into a bit more conversation about it. The first thing is you're certainly not alone in that. Lots and lots of people who are people like us, meaning people who get that it is about soul flow, that it is about alignment, that business and life should feel like we're doing what we're meant to be doing. It is a common thing to have this exact struggle of, "Well, on a deeper level, on a soul level, I understand that I should be getting to follow my purpose and do work that lights me up and lifts me up, not just work, but life."
Now, can we just agree for the purposes of, the rest of your entire life, just make me a small commitment, for the rest of your life that you are going to define the word work as any sort of activity or non-activity that's taking place whilst breathing. That could be called work. Laying on the grass here, that could be work. It actually would be a terrible idea, because I happen to know from experience that there's snippity biting ants on this grass, and they're fire ants, and if you lay on the grass here, you're going to be covered in a burning rash of ants, so that really would be some fucking work. I've tested that enough times to have finally learned my lesson, and they get up into your area. They go up your shorts. It's really uncomfortable. It's worse than being tattooed, for sure.
Can we agree that the word work basically means any activity or non-activity whilst breathing, meaning what is even work? Let's not try and differentiate between work means I'm on a computer or work means, is this work? I don't know. This, to me, is much more energising than if I would sit around in my car having a nap. Fire ants are a bitch. There's nothing you can do about it. I wonder, you could put some calamine lotion on it, but I don't tend to travel with calamine lotion on my person when I'm picking up my kid from school, which is why I'm in this park because their school's right there.
When I say work, I mean all things. It could be something that seems obviously like work, like something on your computer relevant to building a business or interacting with a client or doing a Facebook Live. To me, it's absurd that this should be called work to be quite honest. Really, all I ever wanted to do is for the whole world to shut up and listen to me, and nobody can really talk back at me when I'm on a Facebook Live even if they try to. It's up to me whether or not to engage. How does that work, right?
It's purpose work. Purpose work, most of what I do, the very mast majority is what I would call purpose work if I wanted to get into semantics about it, but there may be just certain things from that feels like work in the traditional sense or definition of the word work, like what other people would define it has, but doing the work, my friends and I always say, like when it comes to dating, for example, or finding calling in soulmate love, or calling in the one, that it's like, well, you want somebody who does all the work and that you yourself do all the work, as well, and it's like all the work means that they show up in their business, they show up for their purpose, they show up for their health and fitness, they show up for their values and their relationships that are important to them, they show up for the inner work, they show up sexually, they show up in all the ways.
That's what work means to me. It's the work of living your life, and I think the word work is not supposed to be a dirty word. There's that firstly, but then where the confusion gets into it is, well, when you're this sort of person, person like me, person like my clients who understands that work is meant to be play, purpose, fun, joy, living, breathing. That's what work is. And then at the same time, you feel like, "But there's stuff that I gotta do that doesn't really feel like flow" or "I don't feel excited about it. How do I reconcile that?" I get asked this question a lot, like I said, which is, "Well, how can I do what I want all day, Kat, like you talk about and believe that I can just follow my soul's desires" which I teach a lot on "and follow flow and then get the result I want. I wanna believe that. I do believe it on a deeper level."
Hey, hey, if you're just jumping on. Hi, Amber. "I wanna believe it on a deeper level," and they do believe it on a deeper level, and I know that you do, as well, right, to be here resonant with this topic, but at the same time, it's like, "I don't feel," and this is what I hear, you might resonate with this. They say. "I don't feel that I can afford to do that yet" or "I don't feel that I'm able to do that yet. I don't feel that I can do that yet because I need cash or because things are just not working out or I'm just getting started," or whatever it might be.
Are you working today? Am I living today? Then I'm working today, and, no, that does not mean I sit at my computer all day long or do other forms of conventionally defined work. The work is living my life.
Here's what I told my client. Firstly, I absolutely fully believe that the way to success is to follow flow, to be guided from within. Every single thing that I choose to do in my business or in my life, and once again, do we have to separate those things out? Yes, let's do it for the purposes of discussion. Everything that I choose to do in any element of my life, business, pleasure, pleasure, it's all mixed together. At this point in my life, comes from flow. I only follow soul alignment. I follow what I'm guided to do within.
I'm going to read this comment later, Angela, but I can't believe you just sat there and came up with 20 items when you should have been freaking listening, or you just had them handy, or did you get them off the Internet?
Anyway, I'm really and truly guided. At this point, I feel like life is just so easy and continues to get easier, and I don't mean I don't experience struggle or purposeful pain or push or uncertainty or even feeling freaking frustrated or pissed off or whatever. All of it still comes back to ease though because 100% of my choices are made from what is right for my soul, what does my soul desire to do right now. When I say, "Yes," to my soul, life says, "Yes," to me. Right, and this is just a rule that I live by.
How this works in a practical sense is that I literally create my day moment by moment based on what I feel aligned to do, what I feel like, what I want to do. I 100% follow what I want to do, so much so that, and I don't tend to have many things that are booked in at an appointment in my calendar each week. It's a very minimal amount. It's an amount that adds up in hours to about six hours a week, give or take, and that's based on the fact that I muscle tested myself on how many hours a week I actually want to be in booked appointments, whether it's client calls or booked livestreams, so I chose it specifically for me based on what my body and higher self directed me to do, but, even then, the appointments, if they're booked, if I feel like that's not aligned, that's not what I'm meant to be doing, if I feel like I'm supposed to be having a massage instead or a nap or playing with my children or whatever other thing, finishing a piece of writing, then I will 100% change the time of a booked appointment, and my clients know this. It's not something that happens all the time, but it happens enough that people are like, "Yeah, she might message me and be like, 'Can we shift to this time or this time or whatever,'" and they can do the same.
As a coach, I'm never like, "Oh, well, you lost your appointment." I used to do that, but I don't ... Well, if someone was like taking a piss, then I would, for sure, but if somebody's like, "Oh, you know, it doesn't feel like aligned for me to talk right now. Can we move to another day," I'm like, "Yeah, whatever." I only work with so many clients, so this makes all this stuff easy, as well.
I feel like that's the end goal. I feel like the ultimate is that you just get to make it up as you go along. You get to follow flow. You get to only do what you feel like you desire to do. What do I want to do in this moment? Like I tuned in. Am I supposed to have a nap? Am I supposed to do this livestream? I'm like, "Yeah, I'm gonna do a livestream." Everything is moment by moment, but there was a time in my business and in my life where I was over $100,000 in debt, actually over 145 according to the journalist who did an interview on me for [inaudible 00:14:36] recently, and he's right because I gave him the numbers, actually worked it out. I was like, "Oh, you're right. It is more than 100," because he wanted to write ... He wrote in the draught 200K+ in debt, and I'm like, "No, no. It was 100," and then I worked it out, and I'm like, "Oh, it's 145. There you go. There's a more impressive debt number for you," but it was accurate.
I felt like a lot of people who speak to me feel like, and new clients, when they come on board often feel this way, I felt that I was struggling ... Well, I was struggling to keep my head above water, and I felt like I had to live in constant reactivity, and if I didn't keep running at a million miles an hour, I was not going to make it through another day or another week financially, continually felt like, "Well, I know what my purpose is and I know what I'm meant to be doing, and I know what freaking flow would feel like right now, and it certainly wouldn't be staying up till 3:00 AM. I wanna freaking sleep, or I wanna get my hair done everyday or I wanna have a massage every day, but I don't have the money for that and I can't afford that time, and I've got to do these things." Logically, that makes sense, but whoever said that they wanted to live in a logical world, and what is logic anyway? What if logic came from intuition? Huh? All right?.
Here's what happened. As long as I stayed in that reactive cycle, basically like a hamster on a wheel, continually buying into the story that I had to live this way in order to survive, I continued to only just survive and only just keep my head above water. I'm talking about so many people, but I'm so glad this resonates, Diana, and if it does resonate, say, "That's me and I'm gonna change it," or say whatever the fuck you want, but I wasn't going to say, "Say, 'That's me,'" without adding something else to it. Make a affirmation claim for yourself in the comments or just send the love hot shower. I feel particularly energised now. So much for having a nap in the car, right? "This resonates, and I change it as of today." You could say something like that.
It was just a trap. It was a story. It's a story. When you tell yourself, "I have to do this and this or else," any form of wording like that, expressed verbally or not, is a story. It's a motherfucking story. All right? The way out of it, however, is not necessarily that you're like, "Right. Well, Kat said I can do what I want every day and, frankly, what I want to do after all these years of working my ass off and burning myself out is lay on the couch and eat freaking Doritos for about four weeks." You know what? You could totally lay on the couch and eat Doritos for four weeks, and your life would not, in fact, be ruined. When you fast forward 10 or 20 or 30 years from now and you look back to the life you created, do you think your success will be defined or not defined by the fact that in March of 2018, you took three days off without doing anything or you took four weeks off and ate Doritos? Is that going to be the defining factor?
"Change the motherfucking story." A powerful comment there from Julie. I even told a client flat out two days ago, I was like, "Right. Your homework, your mission is you're going to do nothing till at least Saturday." Pause, pause, press pause. It's not always press play. In fact, when I invented Press Play, downloaded it, I initially was going to have these things, like Press Pause, Press Start, Press Rewind, and then it got too confusing and I just stuck with Press Play, but you see what I'm saying, right? However, I'm not even telling you to do that unless you totally feel so next level frazzled that you can't even tell which way's up and which way's down, which you probably should freaking lay on the couch and eat whatever you want to eat, until you're ready, until you're recharged and ready to go and get out of the fear mentality that if you stop, the whole Earth falls apart and the sky falls in. You'll be trapped in a fear mentality for as long as you continue to allow it to rule you.
Typically, though, I say something like this. "Well, here's what I did in the end, and here's even, to a degree, still how I look at it." There are certain tasks to this day which, when I see them in my mind's eye that, okay, this thing needs to get done today, I feel like I don't really want to do that. That feels like work, traditional sense. I don't want it. To me, this is like, and this is what I said to my client, "It's like a child." A toddler says, "I don't want to eat my vegetables. I don't want to eat that." Well, on the surface, you don't want to, but is it true that your human soul that your amazing ...
Greensleeves is playing. The ice cream van is here. It's bringing up childhood flashbacks. I don't even like ice cream, and then whenever the ice cream man comes, I just want to get a freaking soft serve cone. It's like I'm having a Pavlovian response right now. I'm very much on the edge of getting up and sprinting over there to get a cone with a freaking flake in it and some chocolate on top. I'm magnetically attracted to this van. I actually don't like ice cream, but I'm like, hmm, it's a pink van, as well. It's very disconcerting. Luckily, my children aren't here or we would be over there.
All right. The child who doesn't want to eat their healthy fruits. Well, actually, on a soul level, you do desire to be healthy, and, actually, on a soul level, your body desires healthy fruit. This is how I choose to look at it with tasks that I still to this day choose that I'm going to do that are going to move me forward in certain areas of my business, or it might even be something like reviewing the photos in my Hollywood branding shoot. I don't really want to. It's like I can't be bothered, but it's a task. I look at it as a task. Then I ask myself, "Do I want that result, though?" So instead of reacting to the surface emotion of whether or not I feel like doing something right now in this moment, I look at, do I desire the result? And I choose it that way.
Many of the things that you think, "Fuck, Kat, I need to do this. I need to get out there and hustle. I need to wave my soapbox flag and get people's attention and sell them shit. I got to build a freaking landing page. I really don't wanna do that," or a sales page or whatever it is. I did all these things. Of course, I did all these things. Well, we do need to let go of the scarcity energy. That shit's not going to sell no matter how much flag waving you do. In fact, quite the opposite, right? But at the same time, maybe there is shit that you got to kind of suck it up, but what if you didn't look at it as sucking it up? What if you looked at it, what if you stepped away from your own emotion of the moment and said, "what is true flow?" Flow doesn't mean eating the freaking ice cream instead of the vegetables, but maybe it does. It depends on the occasion, right? The other night I had caramel slices for dinner, several.
Flow means, what is the aligned decision? So when I see a bunch of stuff where I'm like, I don't really want to do that, and it's stuff that I've chosen or decided that I'm not gonna outsource to somebody else in my amazing support team that I do have now, I'll go, "well, what is aligned? Is it aligned for me to do that?" Well, I don't feel like it. That's not the same as "is it aligned?" But then here's what else. So that might help you to start thinking about it, thinking about acting from the result, acting from what actually would the higher self version of you have to say about the situation, eat your damn vegetables, or whatever it is. Here's what else though. You separate it out, which is still how I do it.
I would never, never, never ... Can somebody screenshot this? Alright, send it to me. Who screenshotted it? Tell me, and message it to me. I will love you forever, probably with my whole heart as my son says, which he alternates with "I hate you mommy and I'm never talking to you again." Sometimes 'cause I ask him to like put his shoes on in an airport or something like that. Oh, thank you. Everybody, you all have a different version, and then we can create it into one of those flicker books where it's just like you flick through. Awesome. Send them all through. I was getting like 20 of them.
So you separate it out. You never, ever, ever do the tasky things that feel more like work in the morning, are you insane? You do your flow-based things in the morning. You broccoli up like a motherfucker at any time that's required, exactly, Leo. Leo? Leah. I've just given you your male angel name. It's Leo. You don't do that shit first. Put first things first. Honour your values. Honour what does your soul truly, reactively desire? Journaling, working out, writing creating art? Okay, maybe your soul is a bit of a lazy motherfucker right now and needs its ass kicked and feels like it doesn't decide to do any freaking thing except lay in bed all day. Oh my God! That's crazy. Your dad, wow. That's [inaudible 00:23:01]. Maybe your soul feels like it wants to do fuck all. Well in that case, your soul is much like an unhealthy person who's eaten nothing but McDonald's for 20 years and just needs to be educated back into what it actually desires from a soul level, right? So there's many things to consider here.
But the point I'm trying to get to is this. Allow so much space for flow. So much space for moment by moment, I can decide what do I feel like right now? You know what Mim, drop that comment about impress. You're obviously gonna have to read this comment, Mim's gonna pin it here, and you're gonna message me if you want to work with me four weeks one on one starting on Monday. I believe we have about eight places left. It's fucking amazing. Just read the comment. I don't have time to talk about it 'cause the school bell just rang right then. I heard it. This always happens when I livestream before the school bell. Okay. Message me on my personal page, please, not on the business one. That would be amazing.
And you separate it out. So you allow plenty and plenty and plenty of time for flow, right? All the time for flow. But you trunk down. So you might decide that I'm gonna do one hour a day or two hours a day where I put the freaking timer on, I caffeine up, I broccoli up like a motherfucker, or whatever it is that excites you, and you put your tunes on and you work through your shit. And I did an hour like that earlier today and I spent minimum 25 minutes of it staring at the wall, because I was hoping that an angel would come down and do it for me and I was trying to come up with a lot of reasons as to why I didn't have to do what I knew I actually, on a higher higher soul level, wanted to do. And eventually, I did the fucking thing, because I'm result-based and I'm committed and I do the work, all the work, and I recognise that whether or not I feel like it is not reflective of my soul desires.
But that is like a one hour a day thing I'll do. In the past, it was a lot more than that because I felt like there was a lot of ground to cover, right? And gradually, I just turned up the dial to where now, I might do 30 minutes a day like that where I'll be like, right, let me work through these kind of tasky tasks, or it could be an hour a day, or sometimes it's ... A lot of the time, it's actually zero times a day, zero hours a day. But then I might do a half day like that, or something like that, right? So for you, now, we're gonna walk and talk. We're gonna walk and talk. Walk and talk. For you now, it could be that you designate like every Monday. Monday is broccoli up like a motherfucker day, which is gonna be our new in-house expression which means do the fucking work, the work you think you don't wanna do. When you're like, "but Kat says I can do whatever I want all day and what I want to do is float like a fairy in the breeze!" Well you can do that after you broccoli up like a motherfucker. Right? And then you connect, though, the tasky tasks.
Anyone came in who didn't like know me or know our languaging, I guess I sound like I'm off my head. You connect the tasky tasks emotionally. Look, there's the ice cream van. Do you see it? Just staring at me. There it is. There's a small dog in the window which I swear that's put there to attract you in even more compellingly.
You emotionally connect the tasky tasks to a feeling of being proud of yourself, and to a feeling of, "I am actually honouring my soul desires. I am doing the work. I am doing what is required to get to my goals and to create the life I want." Alright, now what we're gonna do is simple. We're gonna abandon the tripod and we're gonna continue to walk and talk while we go to school. Alright.
So that's really all I had to say about it, I think. But the point is, get over yourself. However, that doesn't mean live reactively, and no, it certainly doesn't mean that just because cash is required that you've got to spend all your day doing shit that feels like a grind. Actually, you're gonna be very ineffective if you do that, and you're not acting from higher self to not honour your soul desires, alright? So it's about gradually making moves in the direction that you want to go. It's about daily asking yourself, how can I connect more into flow and more into, quote unquote, "only doing what I want?" In the smallest possible way today, for this moment in time, right? What is the one shift or change that I can make today?
Like maybe you're really tired in the middle of the afternoon, and you've got to go pick up your kids, and you're telling yourself, "I don't have time to stop. I don't have time to pause or to have a rest." And you actually legitimately need it. So maybe for today, the faith-based action is you take a rest, right? Or maybe the faith-based action is, when you're feeling frazzled or overwhelmed, you walk away instead of trying to do more, and you go, "you know what, a smart person would go and lay down or go for a walk or have a massage or spend some time out on a livestream of Kat's" and connect back to their soul, whatever it might be.
Alright. I think that's all. I'm gonna go. I'm gonna go, 'cause I'm not gonna livestream through the schoolyard. I don't think that's okay. Message me about empress. Read the comment. Please read that comment. It's an incredibly powerful programme. Download it from [inaudible 00:27:54], and it's around claiming your rightful place now, creating your empire, becoming an empress. Business, life, soul, all of it. Message me on my personal page if you want more details about that. It is private coaching. There is a lot more that I have to say about it, and so I can send you an overview. Have an amazing rest of the day, and do not forget: life is now. Press play.
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